Self Esteem

Self Esteem

To achieve anything in life the first important step is to have self-confident, self-respect and self-esteem. A person must be able to answer in the affirmative when asked the following questions.

1-Do you like yourself?

2-Can you tolerate yourself?

3-Do you love yourself?

4-Do you dress well? Do you walk well? Can you eat in style?

5-Does your name feature in the list of your most respected or admired people? If so, where does it come: in the first place or at the last?

Only when your own name features in the list of our admired/respected individuals will we be able to get respect and admiration from others. First we must be capable of being loved by ourselves, only then can we expect love from others. On self-evaluation we must be able to sate a high value of our personality, talents, virtues or nature.Self-assessement must yield a good value of ourselves. A person who has self-respect and self-esteem never faces defeat/failure. If we don’t have these qualities we must cultivate them. We must prepare ourselves for a radical change. Where there is a will there is a way. “Will” alone determines whether one succeeds or fails. Life or death? Admiration or insults? Victory or defeat? All these are in our own hands.

One should raise oneself through the self and never lower oneself; for the self alone is one’s friend and the self alone is one’s enemy.

Here let me narrate a small story to stress the above point.

A small boy who wanted to demean a wise saint caught a small butterfly. He kept it in his palm and hid his hand in his pant pocket. He went to the wise saint (whom he could not tolerate) and asked, “O wise saint! People from all walks of life admire your wisdom. Can you use your wisdom and tell me whether the insect in my pant pocket is dead or still alive?”

If the saint said ‘dead’ he wanted to release the butterfly alive and prove him wrong; on the other hand, if the saint said that it was ‘alive’ he wanted to crush and kill the insect and again prove the saint wrong. Either way he wanted to make to saint look a liar and cut a sorry figure.

The wise saint was too smart and simply said, “it is in your hands.”

Our life is also like the life of that butterfly. It is in our hands. Every decision which determines our victory or defeat is in our own hands, our own will. If there is a will, there is a way!

 With Regards

A.M.Najar

Gudoora Pulwama